Merry Meet,
I am no longer employed at the health food store where I used to work. I was let go for several reasons; including economic and while that should have been the most important reason given the economic times, it was not.
Let me explain. I was given the reason of (paraphrasing) "the energy created in the store while I was working, specifically alone, which was most of the time, generated a negative vibe that made the general public not want to come in and spend money."
I went on a week’s vacation and a young man, who was a friend of both mine and the store’s owner, covered for me. Sales were up significantly in the week he worked and I didn’t. This is a fact that cannot be ignored as I examine this particular phenomenon. However, the real reason that the vibe in the store made the "general public not want to come in and spend money" centered specifically on the fact that the owner is a very devout Mormon who couldn't understand or handle my sexuality (having "the gay" is a disease or an immoral choice after all, right?) or my chosen religion (being a witch means that angry mobs can burn you at the stake at any time and the christian bible says that perfectly okay, right?). Her energy, her blatant fear fed into a negative vibe in the store. She manifested daily that I would fail, and therefore it happened.
I am a witch. This is my spirituality of choice. I am not Wiccan. Wicca is a religion like any other and was created by a man named Gardener less than 100 years ago. I am simply a witch; a practitioner of the ‘Craft.
I am a lesbian woman in a committed family. I have my partner, and together we share 7 children, all either teens or grown and on their own. We have a granddaughter named Alice who lives in SoCal with her mother and our son is a wonderful father! We have a grandson, Marko, here in our town whom we see nearly everyday. We are a family.
I live a moderately healthy lifestyle, tho I’m not a nut about it. I eat fast food when I’m in a hurry, although I know it’s not good for me. I drink pop. I am one of those Pepsi junkies. I drink Tequila, wine and beer (mostly Tequila) when we go out dancing, or when we have a party with our friends.
These are the reasons my former employer gave for why my energy created a negative vibe in her store.
She laid me off for a week; an experiment of sorts. When I returned the following Tuesday, two days ago, I informed her that I could not continue working for her given that I can’t, and won’t, change who I am. She asked me to stay. She was pretty insistent. I told her I’d think about it, and later that day I ran into her husband and told him I’d be to work the next day to work for a two week period, at the end of which we could decide if it was working out for either of us. An hour later, I received a call from her rescinding her offer for me to stay and was laid off for lack of funds.
So be it.
The universe shall provide and I shall spend time each day here, sharing my knowledge and plying my wares with you wonderful, accepting and loving people.
I am into healing, sharing love and doing no harm. Karma is a wonderful Goddess-smack when you need her, and she is also one who reminds us that there is always tomorrow.
So on to better news. PROPOSITON 8 is overturned in California! Wow. If I had a workin’ car right now, I think Becky and I would have been on our way to SanFran … but alas, the stay. There is still a fight to be fought and won, but with enough people standing up for what is right, we shall prevail. I will marry my girl, legally, someday.
In the meantime, we are having a commitment ceremony in October. A good ol’ fashioned (and I mean old!) handfasting. We can’t wait.
Which brings me to my soapbox for the day. Commitment ceremonies. The LGBT community in many states are forced to declare their love in these “mock” weddings. They aren’t “fake”; merely not legally or civilly recognized. Because of this fact, it’s easy, for lack of the better word, to end the relationship. You don’t have to hire a lawyer. You don’t have to go to court. One person can simply move out of the house and it’s over, right? (I’ll get into the rights of non-custodial LGBT children in another entry. For the moment, let’s talk about those who don’t have children.)
So is it easier for LG couples to have one of these weddings? Should it be easier? I say no! I belong to several online lists and a woman posted that after 6 years together, she and her partner and finally had a commitment ceremony. In the same breath, she asked advice because her partner continually talks to her ex, and at a recent birthday party for the partner’s son, the partner had been relating to said ex in a manner that made the writer feel as though they were “more than friends”.
Why, in the name of the gods, did this woman enter into a commitment with this woman? Where is the trust? Was it to make a point? What point did it make other than to make a sham of the ceremony that SO many of us hold sacred? Now, I know that an LG couple is no more likely to have a successful marriage than a straight counterpart. However, we should be no more UNlikely either. Do you follow?
Just because it’s not legal does not make it a farce. The love is there. Or should be. The trust is there. Or should be. The VOWS are there. Or they should be.
So I implore you, my brothers and sisters in the LGBT community to take these ceremonies as sacred and binding; to prove to our naysayers that we deserve the consecration and equality they take for granted everyday. And take your fight to the street. Call your congressman. Join or form street teams to pound of doors and educate the common man, the voter, about who we are, who are families are. It isn’t fair that we must do this. But it wasn’t fair that African Americans had to fight for their rights, either. But they did it, and they are winning. Just ask our President, Mr. Obama.
That’s all for now. No products listed today. I don’t sell from the soapbox.
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